THIS PAST WEEK: Things are heating up at Home as Our Speaker, Robert Lewis, spoke from real life experience of living with a wife of nearly 40 yrs in Session 4: “STAYING CLOSE TO THE WOMAN YOU LOVE”
Summary: GREAT STUFF! This is HOW to WIN at HOME and with your woman…
I. Paradox principle: “Die a little (to self), live a Lot!”
II. The Forces that Push Couples Apart
a. Everyday CONFLICT
i. The Reality: Every relationship experiences CONFLICT
ii. The question: how do I DEAL with the conflict?
HINT: Resolving conflict is NOT INNATE, it is a LEARNED SKILL
HINT: FEELINGS will follow where you put your MIND! Master your thoughts.
III. The Principle: Conflict can either GROW you as a couple CLOSER together, or it can force you FURTHER APART.
IV. Key Insight: It’s the WISE couple who learns how to resolve conflict QUICKLY and CORRECTLY (Eph. 4:26)
a. Creeping SEPARATENESS – little things mean a lot
i. What a man needs to ask: “DO YOU FEEL CLOSE TO ME?” “Do I feel CLOSE TO YOU?”
ii. Smart Moves a Man can make:
1. Commit to a WINNING strategy – be intentional in resolving conflict
2. WEEKLY escapes that become your COMMUNICATION connectors
3. MONTHY experiences that become your COMPANIONSHIP keepers
4. YEARLY extravaganzas that become your shared MEMORY-MAKERS
iii. Commit to be the one who INITIATES this strategy!
b. Creeping RESENTMENT – Beware!
i. Men beware – do not be embittered (Col 3:19)
ii. What a man needs to ask: “What growing RESENTMENT am I carrying toward my woman?”
V. Smart Moves a man can make
a. Look INSIDE
b. WRITE your resentment down in an I STATEMENT
c. COMMUNICATE your statements in a safe place where you have time to talk
d. Seek a RESOLUTION you both can live with
e. If you can’t, seek mutually agreed upon OUTSIDE HELP
NEXT SESSION: Bonus Round! Session 4: “IMPROVING YOUR SEX LIFE”
It’s not too late to invite a FRIEND to join us! You will be glad you did.
NEXT MEETING TIMES:
Hickory & Granite Falls: Wednesday 10/26/11 at 6:00 AM!
Conover: We’ll meet Tuesday, November 1st at 7:00 PM! (Halloween is on Monday).
Authentic manhood rejects passivity, accepts responsibility, leads courageously, serves humbly and expects God’s greater reward for faithfully living in this way.
Discover the man you’ve always wanted to be!
